When four become family

In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo sits down with Patty, John, Heather, and Beeb — a four-person polycule — to talk about how their connection began, what it’s like to grow from swinging into a committed quad, and how they navigate the everyday challenges of jealousy, compersion, agreements, and family disclosure. From playful

How Do We Even Start This Conversation?

In this episode of the PolysoCal Roundtable Talk, host Alonzo Banx and a diverse group of guests discuss the intricacies of polyamorous relationships. They explore how to navigate the introduction of new partners, the importance of communication, and the lessons learned from past experiences. The conversation emphasizes the significance of mental health and the need

What Is Poly, Really?

What does the word “polyamory” actually mean anymore? In this thoughtful and sometimes spirited roundtable, Alonzo Banx opens the floor to unpack a question that’s become more complicated with time: Has the word “poly” lost its meaning—or expanded it? From ethical non-monogamy to monogamish dynamics, from swinging to polyfidelity, this episode dives into the evolving language

If Judgment Fell Away: How Would You Love?

In this powerful, vulnerable roundtable, the PolySoCal community explores a single, profound question: “If society never judged your relationships, how would that change the way you love?” What unfolds is a raw and deeply human conversation about family rejection, corporate fear, the grief of lost friendships, and the bittersweet path to self-acceptance. Voices range from seasoned poly

Agreements in Action: Building Trust and Boundaries in Polyamory

In this week’s PolySoCal Roundtable, host Alonzo Banx welcomes an engaging mix of voices—from seasoned polycule partners to a guest with a monogamish perspective—for an honest conversation about relationship agreements. Together, they explore how couples create, uphold, and evolve agreements that foster trust, respect, and safety in ethical non-monogamy. The group shares personal strategies, from

Beyond Equal Time: Presence, Intentionality, and Connection in Polyamory

In this week’s PolySoCal Roundtable, host Alonzo Banx and an inspiring panel of voices explore one of the most persistent myths in ethical non-monogamy—the idea that fairness means splitting time equally between partners. Through candid stories, laughter, and heartfelt insights, they reveal why emotional presence, intentionality, and genuine connection matter far more than keeping the