Alonzo BanX – The Host
Alonzo Banx is the creator and host of the PolySoCal Podcast, He is not a therapist and not a guru, he is a longtime community builder who brings decades of lived experience, hard earned perspective, and a rare mix of humor and heart to every episode. As a host, Alonzo is known for asking the questions everyone is thinking but nobody wants to admit, then holding the space long enough for the truth to actually land. He guides conversations into depth without turning them into lectures, and helps guests and listeners feel seen, respected, and human, whether the topic is jealousy, security, agreements, sexual safety, identity, or belonging.
Heather
Heather is one of the most frequent and trusted voices on the PolySoCal Podcast, known for bringing honesty, humor, and real lived experience into every conversation. She’s been in the lifestyle for 10 plus years and has been in poly for roughly three years, currently part of a quad where she is married to Beeb and dating John and Patty (who is also her fiancé). Heather is especially respected for how clearly she talks about the emotional realities of poly, including jealousy, FOMO, and the need for both structured and unstructured time, always with a practical, grounded tone that helps listeners feel normal instead of broken.
Noah
Noah is one of the most consistent voices on the PolySoCal Podcast, known for being thoughtful, articulate, and willing to go first when the conversation gets vulnerable. He’s in a kitchen table poly dynamic with Cookie (his nesting partner of a few years) and Cupcake (partner for about a year), and he often brings a grounded “real world” lens to topics like jealousy, communication, and what it actually takes to build emotional stability in non monogamy. Noah also brings humor and self awareness to the panel (including calling himself “a little bit of a narcissist” just because he likes to hear himself talk), which makes him relatable and keeps heavy topics human.
Cupcake
Cupcake is one of the most memorable and beloved recurring guests on the PolySoCal Podcast, known for her emotional honesty and the brave way she shares her real story to help other people feel less alone. She’s been in and out of the kink and BDSM community for 10 plus years, is married (together over 8 years, married 3), and is also partnered within the PolySoCal circle with Noah and Cookie in a kitchen table style dynamic. What makes Cupcake stand out is not just her lifestyle experience, but her willingness to speak openly about self acceptance, healing, and the courage it takes to stop hiding who you are and start living authentically.
Patty
Patty brings warmth, honesty, and a deeply human perspective to the PolySoCal Podcast, with the kind of emotional openness that instantly makes people feel safe. She’s thoughtful, grounded, and unafraid to speak to the real life side of relationships, the vulnerable parts, the messy parts, and the healing parts. Patty has a natural way of turning a conversation into something meaningful without making it heavy, and her presence consistently adds depth, compassion, and heart to the show.
Jon
One of the most consistent and respected voices on the PolySoCal Podcast, bringing a calm, thoughtful, and often quietly funny perspective shaped by roughly 30 years in the lifestyle. He is married to Patty, is dating Heather, and is part of their shared polycule with Beeb as his metamour, a dynamic the group jokingly calls “Quantum Entanglement” or “the QE”. John is known on the show for being reflective and intentional, especially when discussing real relationship mechanics like communication, scheduling, and what it takes to build something stable and lasting without losing the romance.
Lana
Lana is partnered with Blake and is a recurring voice on the PolySoCal Podcast known for bringing a warm, emotionally intelligent perspective rooted in loving kindness, safety, and conscious communication. She’s partnered with Blake and describes herself as “polysensual,” with a strong focus on exploration, novelty, and creating what’s possible rather than obsessing over what’s missing. Lana is especially valued on the panel because she speaks from a place of maturity and intentionality, emphasizing negotiation, boundaries, emotional security, and making sure partners feel safe instead of pressured.
Blake
is one of the steady anchors of the PolySoCal Podcast, bringing a thoughtful, grounded male perspective to conversations that a lot of men struggle to talk about out loud. Lana and Blake are partners in crime, together in love for 3-1/2 years. He’s calm, honest, and emotionally aware, and he has a way of asking the questions that pull the conversation out of theory and into real life. Blake brings balance to the panel, helps keep the tone respectful and real, and makes the show feel like a safe place to learn, even when the topics get vulnerable.
Ash
Ash is a recurring guest on the PolySoCal Podcast and one of the key faces of the community in real life, serving as the hostess at many in person events where she helps people feel welcomed, safe, and included. She’s been in a relationship with her partner for about seven years, has been in the lifestyle for about eight years, and brings a smart, no nonsense voice to conversations about boundaries, consent, and community standards. Ash has a way of cutting through the awkwardness and saying what needs to be said, especially when it comes to respect and behavior at events.
Max
Max is a recurring voice on the PolySoCal Podcast who brings a smart, candid, sex positive perspective from the single side of the community. He openly identifies as a submissive male and talks about being demisexual, sapiosexual, and kink friendly, often using his own experience to make complex topics feel real and relatable. Max is the guy who will ask the question that becomes the entire episode, then follow it with honest nuance about arousal, connection, and communication, including how audio and mental stimulation can matter as much as physical touch. He also brings a thoughtful, reflective edge to the panel, reminding people to stop waiting for tomorrow and actually live while you have the time.
Beeb
Beeb is a steady, grounded voice on the PolySoCal Podcast who brings the perspective of someone who came into ENM through the lifestyle and grew into poly with intention. He’s 46, married to Heather, dating Patty, and part of their close quad dynamic with John as his metamour. Beeb is known for being honest about the internal work, especially around vulnerability, and how different it feels to open your heart beyond the monogamy mindset. He’s also the guy who keeps it real about how most couples start with strict rules, then evolve as trust deepens and connection becomes safer
Cookie
Cookie is a recurring presence in the PolySoCal world who brings a calm, supportive energy and a real “community glue” vibe to the relationships and connections around her. She’s partnered with Noah and Cupcake in a kitchen table style dynamic, and what makes Cookie stand out is how steady and emotionally safe she is in the room. She’s not there for drama or ego — she shows up with consistency, patience, and a grounded presence that makes people feel cared for and included.