Emotional Intelligence: A Conversation with Jim Fleckenstein

PolySoCal Podcast

In this episode of PolySoCal, we welcome relationship expert Jim Fleckenstein for an in-depth conversation on emotional intelligence, jealousy, conflict resolution, and communication within polyamorous and non-traditional relationships. Rather than a roundtable of shared experiences, this episode centers on thoughtful questions from the panel and practical, experience-based insight from Jim. Topics include managing emotional reactions, understanding jealousy…

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Dr. Joli Hamilton

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Jealousy in ENM: A Conversation with Dr. Joli Hamilton Joli Hamilton, PhD, is a depth psychologist, relationship coach, and educator specializing in consensual non-monogamy, jealousy, and relational ethics. She is the founder of The Year of Opening®, a yearlong experiential program supporting people through identity shifts and relationship transitions with clarity, care, and integrity. Joli has…

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Dr. Deborah Lukovich

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Depth Psychology: with Dr. Deborah Lukovich Deborah Lukovich, PhD, never set out to write a memoir. But when her life – and sense of identity – began to unravel, it coincided with a surprising calling to study depth psychology. Her research and lived experience merged during a collision of spirituality and sexuality, leading to soul-level…

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Jim Fleckenstein

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Emotional Intelligence: A Conversation with Jim Fleckenstein Jim Fleckenstein is a nonmonogamy educator, coach, researcher and activist. His professional coaching practice is The Earth Moved, LLC. He created the Affirmative Intimacy® approach to healthy and sustainable relationships. A polyamory activist since 1998, in 2000 he co-founded ITCR, now the Foundation of the National Coalition for…

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25 Episodes of Love, Growth, and Finding Our Voices

PolySoCal Podcast

This milestone episode celebrates 25 weeks of honest conversations, community bonding, and emotional evolution on the PolySoCal Podcast. The cast reflects on how being part of the show has changed them from deeper communication and personal confidence to stronger connections both inside and outside their relationships. Together they explore how vulnerability has strengthened friendships, how…

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Wingmanning Stories

PolySoCal Podcast

This episode dives into the chaotic world of wingmanning and wingwomaning in polyamorous dating. The cast shares real-life stories of how helping a partner flirt can easily turn into blocking them instead. There is a strong mix of humor and truth as the group explores what enthusiastic consent looks like in public spaces — and…

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Aging, Desire, and the Changing Shape of Intimacy

PolySoCal Podcast

This episode dives into the emotional landscape of aging within polyamorous and kink-friendly relationships. The group explores vulnerability, sexual confidence, physical changes, emotional safety, and the evolving experience of intimacy between partners of different ages. What starts as a discussion about sexual safety expands into honest storytelling about ED, communication, demisexuality, confidence, being seen, and…

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What Does Sexual Safety Mean?

PolySoCal Podcast

The discussion moves far beyond physical protection, delving into emotional safety — the kind of trust that allows someone to be fully vulnerable, seen, and accepted. Each guest brings a deeply personal perspective: Patty speaks about freedom of expression and emotional honesty, John reflects on being “a safe person” and the complexities of male vulnerability,…

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Patty: Lessons in Love and Longevity

PolySoCal Podcast

In this candid interview, host Alonzo Banx sits down with Patty, a cornerstone of the PolySoCal community, for a deep and heartfelt conversation about her 31-year relationship with her husband John, their journey through polyamory, and the wisdom that only comes from decades of experience. Patty shares stories from their early days — from swinging to growing into…

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