Toby has clerked for the National Center for Lesbian Rights, Legal Aid at Work, Transgender Law Center, InterACT, and Equality California. She founded the first organization in the United States to address the rights of people to identify as nonbinary on government issued documents. She has been a leader in nonbinary & intersex rights, bisexual visibility, marriage equality, and polyamorous rights for over two decades. Toby authored an amicus brief filed in Obergefell Supreme Court marriage case in 2015, another in the Zzyym nonbinary passport case in 2019, and received the BALIF 2018 Legal Services Award. She has worked with local poly activists towards nondiscrimination ordinances for poly people and providing information at PRIDE events in the SF Bay Area. Toby has been published, interviewed, and has given presentations including:

• Brown Chicken Brown Cow Sex Positive Talk Show, Polyamory in the Law, March 2018 Segment 2A and Segment 2B
• Nat’l LGBT Bar Association Conference, Intersex & Nonbinary Considerations in Law & Policy, August 2019
• Santa Clara County Bar Association, Nonbinary People in the Legal System and Employment, October 2019
• Nat’l LGBT Bar Association Conference, Parentage, Partnership, and Property: Family Law and Estate Planning for Polyamorous Clients, September 2021

…and many more. 

She’s also a former roadie, a mom, and a novelist (Chased By The Moon, 2023. Sequel to be published late 2026.)