Enthusiastic Consent is the Only Consent

At [Event/Group Name], we believe in creating a space of mutual respect, emotional safety, and deep connection. This begins—and ends—with enthusiastic, informed, and ongoing consent. All physical contact, from a hug to intimate touch, must be welcomed with genuine enthusiasm and clarity from all involved—including partners who may not be directly participating.

What Consent Means Here:

• Freely Given: Consent must be given without pressure, guilt, manipulation, or persuasion. If it’s not a full-hearted “yes,” it’s a “no.”
• Specific & Clear: Consent to one kind of touch is not consent to another. Never assume; always ask.
• Ongoing & Revocable: Consent can be withdrawn at any time, for any reason, without explanation. A “yes” now doesn’t mean “yes later.”
• Conscious & Sober: Consent cannot be given if someone is impaired by alcohol, medication, or any substance that affects their clarity, decision-making, or boundaries—including your own impairment.
• Mutual & Non-Coercive: No one should ever feel obliged to say yes because of social pressure, expectations, status, or discomfort. Even subtle pressure is still pressure.

Partner Consent: Everyone’s Agreement Matters

As a community centered around couples and poly groups, we honor that every connection has multiple layers. Consent isn’t complete unless all impacted parties are aligned.

• Check In With Your Partner First: Before engaging with another person or couple, be sure you and your partner have had a clear, honest conversation about comfort, boundaries, and expectations.
• Assume Nothing About Others’ Agreements: Just because someone is open to connection doesn’t mean their partner is—or that their partner has been consulted. Always double-check that everyone involved is aware and comfortable.
• Avoid Triangulation or Surprise: If you sense a mismatch between someone’s words and their partner’s energy, pause. Respect the dynamics of others’ relationships as carefully as you want yours respected.
• No One Wants to Be the Surprise: One of the quickest ways to rupture trust in this community is to unknowingly become part of a couple’s miscommunication. If you’re unsure, ask with kindness or disengage with grace.

Our Group Commitment:

• We ask before we touch, even for something as small as a shoulder rub or a cuddle.
• We respect a “no” or a “not now” as a full answer. No sulking, guilt-tripping, or second attempts.
• We stay connected with our own partners before, during, and after play or flirtation—prioritizing clear agreements over impulsive action.
• We remain aware of how alcohol or emotion may alter our own clarity, and we pause if we’re not grounded.
• We hold each other kindly accountable. If we witness a consent boundary being overlooked, we step in with care.