Fifty three episodes. Fifty three Sundays. A community that has grown in ways we never expected when this all started. Thank you — genuinely — for being part of every single one of them.
As we move forward, we are making a few intentional changes to protect the quality of what we have built together. Sunday nights at 7:00pm remain our home for RoundTables. What changes is this: we are limiting each roundtable to a maximum of five voices. Smaller tables mean deeper conversations, more room for every voice to land, and the kind of honesty that gets crowded out when too many people are in the room.
The topics for the coming weeks are listed below. You can reserve your seat today. Spots are limited and will fill — so if a topic speaks to you, don’t wait.
A word on bookings. We are all adults and real life happens — that is understood and always respected. But cancellations hurt everyone at the table. If you book a seat and cancel without good reason, or simply don’t show, you may be asked to sit out for a few weeks before booking again. There is no rigid formula here, just accountability. Clearing your schedule for a date night is not a reason to leave an empty chair. Please only book what you can honor.
Community standards — in effect for all episodes
No politics. This is not the place, and it never has been.
No glorification of drug, alcohol, or non-consensual activity of any kind. Stories that celebrate these things have no place here.
No identifying details. Do not name specific cities, venues, clubs, or any detail that could lead to a member of this podcast — or anyone discussed on it — being identified in the real world.
Protect people not in the room. When sharing stories involving others, exercise every caution. If there is any possibility someone could be recognized from what you say, don’t say it that way.
This show exists to set a good example. Every story we tell, every opinion we share, reflects on the broader community we represent. Carry that with care.
Scheduled Guests
Floating expert conversations
Some of the most meaningful episodes we have made have come from sitting down with researchers, therapists, coaches, and thinkers who bring depth and dimension to what we do here. The reality is that Sunday at 7:00pm does not work for everyone worth talking to. Scheduling experts into a fixed weekly slot has cost us conversations we should have had. Expert episodes will no longer be tied to the Sunday roundtable format.
Remember to be on a guest call you must be on 3 weekely calls in the next 4-6 weeks.
Carolyn Eagle – 7pm Sunday the 9th
“The Pleasure Librarian. Founder & CEO of Betty’s Toy Box, Naughty North, and Pleasure Curve. AASECT certified Sex Educator. Feminist.”
Carolyn Eagle is an AASECT Certified Sex Educator and the visionary behind Viola Media Inc., the parent company encompassing Betty’s Toy Box, Naughty North, and Pleasure Curve. With an Honours BA in Political Science and History from the University of Toronto – specializing in sexual politics and women’s history – Carolyn’s work is deeply rooted in advocacy, storytelling, and the delivery of evidence-based, shame-free sexual education.
After a successful career in Canadian publishing, Carolyn transitioned to the sexual wellness industry in 2014. Since then, she has built a reputation as a compassionate authority on women’s sexual health, emphasizing that physical and emotional well-being are inextricably linked to sexual satisfaction.
Carolyn’s expertise extends into the often ignored intersection of pleasure and aging. She is a fierce advocate for women navigating the hormonal and physiological shifts of perimenopause, menopause, and beyond. By deconstructing the “expiry date” myth often placed on women’s bodies, she provides the tools and education necessary to maintain a vibrant, fulfilling sex life at every stage of life.
One-On-Ones – Interviews
I am now doing one-on-one interviews with people for the Radio Station. Want to meet me for a 15 min talk about one of these subjects? We can record these anytime as its only you and me.
Have something i need to add?
Polyam Wellness
- What did your first STI testing conversation actually sound like?
- What do most people misunderstand about what a standard STI panel does and does not test for?
- Have you ever had an STI scare, and what happened?
- How do you tell someone you have herpes, HPV, or another ongoing condition?
- What happened the first time a condom broke, slipped, or came off?
- Has erectile dysfunction ever shown up during an encounter, and how did everyone handle it?
- What do men need to know about erections, performance anxiety, and not being able to finish?
- What do women wish men understood about menopause, dryness, pain, and changes in arousal?
- How has getting older changed your sex life and the way you approach new partners?
- How have weight, body image, scars, disability, or physical limitations affected your confidence?
- Have you ever pushed your body too far during a party, weekend, or long night?
- What physical problems can happen when someone suddenly starts having much more sex?
- What did you learn the hard way about lube, condoms, toys, allergies, or irritation?
- How do medications, alcohol, cannabis, or erectile drugs affect sex in ways people do not expect?
- Have anxiety, depression, ADHD, trauma, or another mental health issue affected how you connect with people?
- What does jealousy feel like in your body before you even understand what is happening?
- Have you ever mistaken fear, insecurity, or exhaustion for jealousy?
- What happens mentally when your partner gets much more attention than you do?
- Have you ever felt emotionally wrecked after an encounter that seemed fine while it was happening?
- What health question were you too embarrassed to ask when you were new?
Polyam Living
- What actually happens when you walk into a swingers club for the first time?
- What did you wear to your first club or event, and did you get it right?
- How do you walk up to strangers and start a conversation without sounding awkward?
- How can you tell whether someone is flirting, being friendly, or simply being polite?
- What does a couple do when one of them is interested and the other is not?
- What happens when someone likes your partner but is not interested in you?
- Where did you actually meet the people you connected with: clubs, apps, house parties, meetups, or somewhere else?
- Which dating apps or websites worked for you, and which ones were a waste of time?
- What makes a profile get your attention, and what makes you immediately pass?
- How honest should someone be about being completely new?
- What was the first event you attended, and was it actually fun?
- What makes one club or event feel welcoming while another feels cold or cliquish?
- Have you ever gone to an event and spent the entire night talking without anything sexual happening?
- How do you know whether a house party is legitimate before you show up?
- What should someone bring to a club, hotel party, or weekend event?
- What does it really cost to participate once you include tickets, hotels, clothes, drinks, travel, and memberships?
- What happens when you travel to an event and discover that the crowd is not your crowd?
- How do you leave a bad date, party, or encounter without turning it into a scene?
- What was your biggest mistake when trying to meet people?
- What is the one thing newcomers do that immediately tells everyone they are new?
- Have you ever become real friends with someone you originally met for sex or dating?
- What is the difference between a club, a house party, a hotel takeover, a cruise, and a poly meetup?
- Which kind of event is best for someone who wants to meet people but is not ready to play?
- What is a night at a club really like from arrival to leaving?
- What event did you think you would hate but ended up loving?
- What event looked amazing online but was disappointing in person?
- How do couples handle transportation, hotels, sleeping arrangements, and getting home after a long night?
- How do you meet people when you live far away from a major city or community?
- What did you wish someone had told you before your first club or event?
- Where should a completely new person start this weekend?
Upcoming Roundtables.
These are the weekely Sunday 7:00pm Calls and if you are on this page you know how it works. There are about 30 people at the table now. Look at the topics below and decide if you want to sit in. Only 5-7 Max on any one week. If you want in just email me say so. If i dont have 5 set by wed/thurs of that week i will send out a message and ask who wants in. its that simple first ones to say “ME!” are on.
Episode 53 — Sunday, August 9th – Guest Episode – Carolyn Eagle The Pleasure Librarian. Founder & CEO of Betty’s Toy Box, Naughty North, and Pleasure Curve. AASECT certified Sex Educator. Feminist.
Voices – Alonzo, Heather, Jon, Lana, Brandt, Noah (Room for 2 more)
Episode 54 — Sunday, August 16th Compersion — Going Deeper You’ve touched on compersion before, but this time go all the way in. Where does it actually come from? Can it be learned or is it wired? What does it feel like in the body? And what does it tell us about the nature of love itself when you can genuinely feel joy watching someone you love love someone else?
Voices – Alonzo, Lanna, Blake, Michael, Heather
Episode 55 — Sunday, August 23rd
Finding the Door — How People Actually Enter the Community
How do people really find their way into the poly, ENM, swinger, and connected community world? Not the fantasy version, but the actual first steps: websites, meetups, friends, events, podcasts, dating apps, mistakes, nerves, and the first time you realize there is a real community out there.
Voices – Alonzo,
Episode 56 — Sunday, August 30th
What Websites Actually Worked For You?
Dating apps, event pages, Facebook groups, FetLife, Reddit, Meetup, podcasts, word of mouth, club calendars, and private invites. What has actually helped people meet real humans, and what has been a complete waste of time? This is a practical, lighter episode about where people found connection.
Voices – Alonzo,
Episode 57 — Sunday, September 6th
First Message, First Meetup, First Mistake
How do you reach out without sounding creepy, desperate, fake, or like every other “hey beautiful” message in the pile? What worked? What failed? What did people wish they knew before their first coffee, munch, event, or date?
Voices – Alonzo,
Episode 58 — Sunday, September 13th
Green Flags, Red Flags, and Yellow Flags
What makes someone feel safe, interesting, and worth getting to know? What makes people quietly back away? This episode keeps it practical and real: profiles, first conversations, over-sharing, pressure, honesty, hygiene, expectations, and the difference between confidence and entitlement.
Voices – Alonzo, women-led panel if possible
Episode 59 — Sunday, September 20th
How To Be a Man From a Woman’s Perspective
What do women wish men understood before entering poly, ENM, swinging, kink, or connected community spaces? This is not about shaming men. It is about telling the truth: how to approach, how to listen, how to not make women manage your insecurity, and how to become the kind of man people actually want in the room.
Voices – Alonzo, women’s panel,
Episode 60 — Sunday, September 27th
How To Be a Woman From a Man’s Perspective
A companion episode, but not a cheap reversal. What do men wish women understood about pressure, rejection, performance, emotional labor, sexual expectations, and being seen as more than opportunity or utility? This should be honest without becoming defensive.
Voices – Alonzo, men’s panel,
Episode 61 — Sunday, October 4th
The Couple Bubble — When Two People Enter Together
What happens when an established couple enters the community together? The safety, the fear, the rules, the jealousy, the excitement, and the ways couples can accidentally become impossible for others to connect with. This is practical and very useful for new couples.
Voices – Alonzo, couples panel
Episode 62 — Sunday, October 11th
The Single Person at the Table
What is it like to enter poly or ENM without a nesting partner, spouse, or built-in emotional anchor? This episode explores freedom, invisibility, opportunity, loneliness, being treated like an accessory, and the difference between being single and being alone.
Voices – Alonzo, Dahlia
Episode 63 — Sunday, October 18th
Poly and Lonely
This is one of the heavy ones. How can someone have partners, lovers, dates, community, and still feel deeply lonely? This episode should explore emotional availability, being secondary, being overlooked, event loneliness, couple privilege, and the quiet ache of not knowing where you truly belong.
Voices – Alonzo,Dahlia
Episode 64 — Sunday, October 25th
Sexy Is Not the Same as Available
A lighter but important episode for Halloween season. Costumes, flirting, parties, sexy energy, and the mistakes people make when they confuse attraction with invitation. This can be fun, playful, and still deeply useful around consent, reading the room, and not being an idiot.
Voices – Alonzo,
Episode 65 — Sunday, November 1st
After the Party — What Happens When the Glitter Comes Off
Community events can feel magical, but what happens the next day? Drop, comparison, jealousy, regret, reconnection, aftercare, awkward texts, new crushes, and the emotional cleanup after a big weekend. This is both fun and real.
Voices – Alonzo,
Episode 66 — Sunday, November 8th
Processing Trauma
This is the heavy one, and it should be handled carefully. How do past wounds show up in poly, kink, sex, jealousy, abandonment fear, control, people-pleasing, and shutdown? The goal is not therapy. The goal is honest conversation about recognizing when the past is speaking louder than the present.
Voices – Alonzo, trauma-aware guests, not too large a panel
Episode 67 — Sunday, November 15th
When Your Past Is in the Room
A follow-up to trauma, but more practical. What do partners do when someone gets triggered? What is support, what is enabling, what is too much to ask, and when does someone need help beyond what a partner or polycule can provide?
Voices – Alonzo, mixed panel with grounded voices
Episode 68 — Sunday, November 22nd
Thankful for the Mess
A Thanksgiving-season episode that is lighter but not fake. What are people thankful for in this life, including the awkward lessons, failed dates, jealousy moments, hard talks, surprise friendships, and people who changed them? This is gratitude without pretending everything was easy.
Voices – Alonzo, regulars
Episode 69 — Sunday, November 29th
The People We Did Not Expect to Love
Sometimes connection shows up in the wrong package, wrong age, wrong dynamic, wrong timing, or wrong expectation. This episode explores surprise connections, unexpected chemistry, and the way poly can challenge people’s assumptions about who they are drawn to.
Voices – Alonzo, Dahlia
Episode 70 — Sunday, December 6th
Rules We Outgrew
What rules, agreements, fears, or structures made sense at the beginning but no longer fit? This episode lets people talk about growth without mocking their earlier selves. It is about how relationships mature and how safety structures sometimes need to evolve.
Voices – Alonzo, Dahlia
Episode 71 — Sunday, December 13th
Holiday Poly — Families, Invitations, and Awkward Explanations
Who gets invited? Who gets named? Who stays invisible? What do you tell family? How do people handle holidays with multiple partners, kids, exes, metamours, and families who may or may not understand? This is practical, seasonal, and very relatable.
Voices – Alonzo,
Episode 72 — Sunday, December 20th
Gifts, Time, and Attention
A lighter holiday episode with a real emotional core. In poly, gifts are not just things. Time, attention, public acknowledgment, private effort, and thoughtful planning can all carry weight. What makes someone feel remembered? What creates comparison or hurt?
Voices – Alonzo,
Episode 73 — Sunday, December 27th
What This Year Taught Us
A year-end reflection episode. Not a clip show. A real table conversation about what people learned this year in love, jealousy, community, sex, friendship, conflict, endings, beginnings, and themselves.
Voices – Alonzo,
Episode 74 — Sunday, January 3rd, 2027
What Are We Carrying Forward?
Start the new year by asking what people want to carry forward and what they want to leave behind. Better communication, less fear, fewer rules, stronger boundaries, more play, more courage, less hiding, more honesty. This should feel like opening a new container for the year.
Voices – Alonzo,