Forty episodes. Forty Sundays. A community that has grown in ways we never expected when this all started. Thank you — genuinely — for being part of every single one of them.
As we move forward, we are making a few intentional changes to protect the quality of what we have built together. Sunday nights at 7:00pm remain our home for RoundTables. What changes is this: we are limiting each roundtable to a maximum of five voices. Smaller tables mean deeper conversations, more room for every voice to land, and the kind of honesty that gets crowded out when too many people are in the room.
The topics for the coming weeks are listed below. You can reserve your seat today. Spots are limited and will fill — so if a topic speaks to you, don’t wait.
A word on bookings. We are all adults and real life happens — that is understood and always respected. But cancellations hurt everyone at the table. If you book a seat and cancel without good reason, or simply don’t show, you will sit out for a few weeks before booking again. There is no rigid formula here, just accountability. Clearing your schedule for a date night is not a reason to leave an empty chair. Please only book what you can honor.
Community standards — in effect for all episodes
No politics. This is not the place, and it never has been.
No glorification of drug, alcohol, or non-consensual activity of any kind. Stories that celebrate these things have no place here.
No identifying details. Do not name specific cities, venues, clubs, or any detail that could lead to a member of this podcast — or anyone discussed on it — being identified in the real world.
Protect people not in the room. When sharing stories involving others, exercise every caution. If there is any possibility someone could be recognized from what you say, don’t say it that way.
This show exists to set a good example. Every story we tell, every opinion we share, reflects on the broader community we represent. Carry that with care.
Floating expert conversations
Some of the most meaningful episodes we have made have come from sitting down with researchers, therapists, coaches, and thinkers who bring depth and dimension to what we do here. The reality is that Sunday at 7:00pm does not work for everyone worth talking to. Scheduling experts into a fixed weekly slot has cost us conversations we should have had. Expert episodes will no longer be tied to the Sunday roundtable format.
Scheduled Guests
Remember to be on a guest call you must be on 3 weekely calls in the next 4-6 weeks.
May 19th at 6:15. – Chad Taylor (Australia, Sydney)
is a clinical psychotherapist and author of It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s Me. He works with individuals and couples who are sick of repeating the same destructive patterns in relationships.
Blunt, direct, and grounded in both psychology and lived experience, Chad challenges blame culture and exposes the unconscious behaviours driving anxiety, addiction, and intimacy breakdown. No tips. No fixing. Just real accountability.
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Voices – Alonzo, Chad, Noah, Heather
May 26th at 11:00am. – The New York Kink Collective
A deep dive in to the world of the Joshua, Cat, Natalie and how they make their brand of Poly work in the kink enviroment of the New York Kink Collective
Voices – Alonso, Joshua, Cat, Natalie
June 2nd at Noon – NATALIA Kobylkina (London)
“Expert Sexologist and Relationship Guru ★ World-Renowned Psychologist ★ Life Coach: ★ Author of Eight Books: ★ TV’s Sexology Maverick” World-Renowned Psychologist: with a global following, she is recognized for NLP Master: skilled in Neuro-Linguistic Programming, she uses this approach to Life Coach: a successful life coach who has empowered over a million people Author of Eight Best-Selling Books: Her books on relationships, TV’s Sexology Maverick: known for her daring takes on intimacy and
Internationally Featured: She has been recognized by Forbes and other leading publications as a top entrepreneur and life coach. Inspirational Entrepreneur: Built a million-pound business from scratch,
Highly-Successful Trainer and Speaker: Delivered over 3,000 training sessions Prolific Coach: Has provided more than 10,000 hours of personal coaching to Empowerer of Women: Passionate about helping women shift their attitudes
Voices – Alonso, Natalia
In the works but no dates set yet..
Attorney Toby Adams – the Adams Lawfirm. Talking about legal status of Poly couples
Nicholas Christo – of the Seminary students exploring Christianity through apologetics with honest interviews and both sides presented. Casual long-format interviews. “can Poly and Christianity coesist)
Upcoming Roundtables.
Episode 42 — Sunday, May 17th Poly and Money — The Conversation Nobody Has Finances are one of the top causes of relationship breakdown in monogamy. In poly they’re even more complex — who pays for dates, how do nesting partners handle shared finances when other partners are in the picture, and what happens when income imbalance creates power imbalance?
Voices – Alonzo, Noah, Cookie
Episode 43 — Sunday, May 24th What Does Commitment Actually Mean Here? In monogamy commitment means exclusivity. You’ve dismantled exclusivity. So what replaces it? What does it mean to be truly committed to someone in an ENM relationship, and how do you know when you have it?
FULL LOCKED: Voices – Alonzo, Noah, Cupcake, Lanna, Blake, Heather, Cookie
Episode 44 — Sunday, May 31st Poly Across the Generation Gap What happens when someone in their 50s or 60s tries to navigate a lifestyle increasingly shaped by people in their 20s and 30s? Different apps, different vocabulary, different expectations. How does age change the experience?
Voices – Alonzo, Noah, Heather, Jon
Episode 45 — Sunday, June 7th The Children Question Not whether to have kids — but how do you raise them inside a poly structure? What do you tell them, when, and how do you handle school, other parents, family holidays, and custody agreements?
Voices – Alonzo,
Episode 46 — Sunday, June 14th When Poly Becomes a Reason to Avoid Intimacy Sometimes the lifestyle becomes a way to stay emotionally unavailable — always the excitement of something new, never going deep with anyone. How do you know the difference between healthy poly and using multiple connections to avoid real vulnerability?
Voices – Alonzo, Dahlia
Episode 47 — Sunday, June 21st The Ones Who Left — Why People Go Back to Monogamy An honest conversation with someone who genuinely tried ENM and chose monogamy instead. Not a debate — a real exploration of what didn’t work, what they miss, and what they don’t.
Voices – Alonzo,
Episode 48 — Sunday, June 28th Chronic Illness, Aging, and the Lifestyle Bodies change. Energy changes. What happens to poly relationships when health becomes a real factor — when someone needs more care than they can reciprocate, or a partner becomes a caregiver?
Voices – Alonzo, Lanna, Blake, Cupcake
Episode 49 — Sunday, July 5th The Friendship Line Where is the line between a deep friendship and an unclaimed relationship? What happens when one person thinks they’re on one side of that line and the other person thinks they’re on the other?
Voices – Alonzo,
Episode 50 — Sunday, July 12th What Would You Tell Your Younger Self? Voices at every stage — brand new, five years in, twenty years in, and forty-plus. What do people further down the road wish they’d known? What mistakes are completely avoidable if someone just told you first?
Voices – Alonzo, Blake, Dahlia
No Call — Sunday, July 19th for Myranthia
Episode 51 — Sunday, July 26th The Men’s Room — What Men Really Experience in Poly An all-male roundtable. The anxiety, the unequal playing field, the identity questions, the loneliness, the growth. The conversation men rarely get to have openly and honestly without women in the room.
Voices – Alonzo, , Blake
Episode 52 — Sunday, August 2ng The Other Side of the Table — What Is a Metamour? What does it actually feel like to be someone’s metamour? What are the unspoken expectations, the unexpected bonds, the awkward moments, and the surprising joys of being deeply connected to someone through a shared partner?
Voices – Alonzo, Dahlia
Episode 53 — Sunday, August 9th My Person’s Person — Life as a Paramour What is it like to be the partner who isn’t the primary? What does the paramour role actually look like day to day — the rewards, the boundaries, the moments of invisibility, and the question of where you belong in someone’s life?
Voices – Alonzo, Dahlia
Episode 54 — Sunday, August 16 th Compersion — Going Deeper You’ve touched on compersion before, but this time go all the way in. Where does it actually come from? Can it be learned or is it wired? What does it feel like in the body? And what does it tell us about the nature of love itself when you can genuinely feel joy watching someone you love love someone else?
Voices – Alonzo, Lanna, Blake